What Do You Do When Your Hr Director Is Notorious For His Sexually Harassing Behavior?
Monday, June 8th, 2009 at
10:38 pm
The Director of HR/Asst. Vice-president of my company is historically known for his inappropriate comments and actions and the president and principals laugh it off. Do I do something it about it or hightail it out of there? The odds don’t seem to be in my favor but I am not the type to roll over and put up with it.
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If he does or says anything to you just look him in the eye and say in a calm but direct voice that you find his actions/words offensive and to please stop. If the actions/words continue you will be filing sexual harassment charges. It’s best to do this when you are one on one. If you do it in a large group it could seem overly aggressive and that opens a whole new can of worms.
Usually with sexual harassment charges, unless it is outright and endangering you, it’s best to ask them to stop and give a “warning” before you file papers. Then, they can never claim that they were unaware of the effect of their actions. Be sure to noted the date and time that incidences happened. If things do need legal actions later, it will be a big help to have your information cited.
If you do this, depending on the type of place that you work, you may have to deal with a lot of crap afterwards and if the business is run by men, it could be harder to move up in the job. However, if the men that you work for are actually as you say they are, you may have a hard time already moving up.
There is always the option of being asked to transfer or start looking for a new job. It just depends on how comfortable you feel and how much effort you want to put into fixing it.
is it true harrassment or people just having fun in the work place. i have worked with men all my life and had several that have worked under me. there is nothing that anyone can say to OFFEND me. if i don’t like the person i just stay away. ask yourself, ‘if these comments were coming from a friend would it still bother me’? then ask yourself ‘is it me’? we have two women that i work with who freak out everytime someone calls them darlin (i live in the south) or sugar. they are not being mistreated, they are over sensitive!. they have spoiled any fun we have here. the men are afraid to say ‘you look nice’ for fear of losing their jobs. It is getting ridiculous. YOU CAN SPEND YOUR LIFE BEING MAD OR YOU CAN BE HAPPY. the choice is YOURS!!!!!!!!! I am a married woman and everyone here knows they are not getting laid, we just laugh and make the day go by faster. you may actually make some friends.
There should be papers somewhere about filing sexual harassment in the workplace. Start there.
Edit: I have found that women who complain the most about this type of thing are just as guilty, only men just blow it off. Make SURE you aren’t the same way.
first talk to your HR Director that you are harassed by his antics, if he wouldn’t stop file a formal complaint
You must be fun to work with.